Women from Ghana and Thailand landed the top spots as the world’s most
unfaithful lovers in a new survey. According to the survey carried out
by condom producer Durex on 29,000 women in 36 countries, Malaysian
women came third – 39 per cent admitting they often cheat on their
mates, behind Ghana (62 per cent) and Thailand (59 per cent).
In
fourth and fifth place were Russia (33 per cent) and Singapore (19 per
cent) respectively, Star Online reported. Among couples cheating on
each other, Malaysia trailed behind South Korea and chart-topper
Thailand.
The same survey placed men from Singapore and Hong Kong
as being the most promiscuous in Asia, with an average of 16 bed
partners in their lifetime.
How do Ghanaians feel about this revelation?
We
asked a number of them in the Tri-State area and the general verdict
was that of shock and consternation. “That is a preposterous conclusion.
What were the yardsticks they used in conducting their poll? How many
women did they talk to and what scientific methods did they employ to
arrive at such a sweeping verdict? While not completely absolving our
women from indulging in certain shenanigans, I would say we, Ghana women
are not the most notorious in that regard. I have friends from other
ethnicities who are married, and at the same time keep multiple lovers,
and I, happily married to my husband for ten years now, have only
strayed once, and why I did that was because we were having problems
that appeared intractable at the time. Since my husband and I got back
together, I have never cheated on him and don’t intend to.” Linda, who
asked that I keep her last name out of print, had told me.
To
Kwesi–a business owner in Hartford, Connecticut, such definition serves
the women right “It has been a known fact within our community and even
in our native country that our women have not been faithful to their
husbands. Here in the Diaspora, you can’t tell your wife to keep away
from certain associations, she will lash out at you, and tell you to
mind your business that she is an adult, and knows how to take care of
herself- including knowing when to say no to an amorous overtures. It is
so depressing to so defined, I hope they will take or two things from
this survey and give respect to their marital status.”
“I think
the poll is spot-on” a lady who had pleaded to remain anonymous had told
me. “I am not proud to say it; a lot of our married women sleep around.
At least among my circle of friends- we have at one point or the other
maintained other relationships. Sometimes, the driving impulse may not
even be for material gains, but for the thrill of it. But we are not
different from other Africans. I know some Nigerian friends of mine, who
are married too, but have lovers outside. I think our men should find
the revelation a means to challenge themselves and ask what it is they
are doing that is not right. I don’t think a woman will willingly go out
there to cheat on her husband if the ‘game’ is tight at home, if you
know what I mean”
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